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Sister Survivors Your Voice Means Everything

By June 18, 2018May 24th, 2019No Comments

“It is my privilege to sentence you to 60 years in federal court and then my 40 years…” 480 months. Sir, I’m giving you 175 years, your death sentence“ Judge Aquilina

As survivors of sexual abuse we’re good at hiding, hiding feelings, hiding the pasts, hiding what happened. But we don’t need to hide any longer. It’s time we stand together, speak out and be heard. We need to rally around one another and find our collective voice as survivors, but this starts with each individual sharing their story. It starts with you! The more voices we have the louder the message will be.
One in 3 women have been sexually abused by the time they reach their 18th birthday. Three times as many women are survivors of sexual abuse than breast cancer.  Twenty five percent of women will be sexually assaulted on college campuses. There is a sexual assault/sexual harassment every 98 seconds in America.
Where are our pink ribbons, runs’ for recovery, runs for the “cure”? Why aren’t streets blocked off for people cheering us on, our survival, our journey, our courage? Why aren’t we standing together and having marathons raising money for awareness and treatment? Educating girls and boys, men and women. “Take Back The Night” is on every college campus to speak out against violence against women. Yay for them. But where are we? Where is the rally for Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse?
Only survivors and those who love survivors can make this human rights movement happen. Human beings should have a right to be free of sexual assault—body safety. Those of us who have been through it and have recovered, removed the trauma, removed the “secret” are a position to help our sisters and brothers along the way.
But we remain quieter than any other group of ‘victims’. I believe it’s because child sexual abuse is still a taboo topic. More than suicide or even mental illness, the horror of child sexual abuse still makes us turn our heads in shame and denial. If powerful celebrities with platforms are afraid to speak out, image the terror of the child.
Survivors need to speak up, use your voice, and engage in ACTION.
We NEED to start talking! Empower each other! Map out a plan and carry it out! Vote out the men, vote in the women!
Talk about what has happened Stop being ashamed, stop feeling stigmatized, because it is NOT your fault. You were a victim. Your trust was violated. You were betrayed. There is nothing to be ashamed of or feel guilty for, you did nothing wrong, your perpetrator(s) did.
So why share your story? By doing so you not only help heal yourself but encourage others to share their stories, and heal themselves, creating a domino effect. Share strength, share struggle, share survival. Let others know that there is a way to heal and overcome. To thrive instead of just survive.
The healing journey is just that, an extraordinary journey. There will be ups and downs but as with any trek it’s easier with companions, to hold you, lend a hand, encourage, applaud, celebrate your victory. You do not need to remain a victim.
Come together on this healing path, know there is a way past the pain and darkness so you can come running, full force, into the light of peace, hope and joy.
Come join us the journey.